You don't want your child to become a people-pleaser just to have friends. They still need to be authentic about who they are. Kids who continue to have problems making friends could have a medical condition affecting their social relationships. Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder ADHD , autism , anxiety, and selective mutism which occurs when children don't talk to people outside their immediate family can all contribute to difficulty socializing.
Having trouble with friendships also can be a sign of depression, a learning disability , stress, or even bullying. Not being able to make and keep friends can be an important clue that your child needs help from a medical professional.
Your pediatrician, a child psychologist, or a counselor can be good resources when your child continues to have problems making friends. You can also bring up this topic at yearly well-child checkups.
Be realistic about your expectations for your child's friendships. If your child is shy and quiet, then being happy with just one or two good friends may be completely normal for them. They may not want or need a whole group of friends. Children with disabilities may feel intimidated by other children or they may feel uncomfortable reaching out to them.
If this is the case in your family, help your child meet new people and make friends by setting small goals. For instance, ask them to say hello to at least one new person each day.
Many times, this small step is enough to start a conversation with another student. Gifted children often have problems making friends too, and may prefer to be around adults instead of kids their own age. These preferences can be a sign that your child is having problems making friends.
Work with your child to help them connect with like-minded peers. Depending on your child's interests, clubs revolving around books, math, science, chess, and robotics might be good options. Making friends during the school year may be a bit more challenging with the pandemic still limiting some in-person activities, especially among kids who can't yet be vaccinated. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has prioritized in-person learning for the upcoming school year, however, so the majority of children can once again look forward to daily face-to-face interactions with their peers.
Avoid pushing shy children to make friends or force them into social situations if it causes too much anxiety or if they aren't ready. Be patient and let your child's readiness and interest level serve as a guide. Childhood friendships are full of ups and downs and ins and outs.
So, if your child is going through a friendship slump, try not to be too worried. Remember, making friends and being a good friend are skills that need to be learned. So, focus on helping your children build and practice their friendship skills.
Eventually, everything will fall into place. Also, be sure to keep the lines of communication open. Talking about how to be a good friend is just as important as learning how to make friends. These types of conversations will help your children learn to identify who is a good friend and who might not have their best interest at heart. Having this skill can end up saving them a lot of heartache in the end—and help them find the right friends for them.
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Social scripts are especially helpful for children on the autism spectrum who need to deliberately learn key social skills, such as establishing eye contact and responding to the moods of others. Finally, if your child has been having a hard time making friends, Dr.
Rooney suggests setting up a meeting with his teacher. Supervised playdates are a great way for children to build their social muscles. Rooney suggests that parents spend some time before playdates reviewing social cues with their children. Some activities for playdate-prep include:. And when you review how it went, focus on the good behaviors you want to reinforce. Some kids are natural social butterflies while others need more time to warm up to new situations.
Busman suggests planning playdates at your house first, where your child will be most at ease. Clubs or other activities are also a good way to make friends because they provide built-in structure that helps minimize anxiety. If your child is reluctant, try finding a familiar peer to join the activity with her. As with any social skill, parents can help shy kids rehearse ahead of time for a situation that makes them nervous, like going to a birthday party or meeting a new group of people.
Busman notes there is also a difference between children who are shy and children who are simply more introverted and prefer spending their down time reading or drawing by themselves. Busman recommends knowing how much your child can handle and setting expectations accordingly.
Rooney advises keeping things in perspective. Get this as a PDF. Enter email to download and get news and resources in your inbox. Share this on social.
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